I am a 75-year-old woman and have been reading about masturbation since I was in my early 20s, including Our Bodies, Ourselves and feminist books about how women deserve pleasure. I bought a Magic Wand in my 20s, read Betty Dodson, and went to a sex therapy group, and have been unsuccessfully trying to masturbate for decades. I get aroused using a vibrator, but I quickly numb out, freeze, become judgmental and go up to my “attic” (head) rather than staying in my body. I have learned how to meditate and now hope that focusing on deep breathing will help. Mainly, I need to find compassion for myself at not having learned how to come. I have a loving lesbian partner, but we have unfortunately stopped making love because I resent her being easily orgasmic. Any ideas are welcome as I would love to give myself more pleasure before I leave this planet…Continue Reading

By Ian Dei

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